The colleague who I shared an office with and the colleague with whom I shared an office identify the same person. The second arrangement sounds more formal; the first is grammatical.

The idea

In everyday usage, leave the preposition at the end. In a defining clause its relative pronoun may be who/which/that as appropriate, or omitted. For a more formal fronted preposition, use whom for people or which for things: with whom, in which.

Examples

  • The colleague who I shared an office with has moved.
  • The colleague with whom I shared an office has moved.
  • This is the drawer that I keep spare keys in.
  • This is the drawer in which I keep spare keys.
  • The report I referred to is on the website.
  • The shelf on which the jars stood has collapsed.

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Watch out

Do not put that immediately after a fronted preposition, or omit the pronoun there. Moving or omitting a relative pronoun does not remove the needed preposition: the report I referred to. An ending preposition is not automatically an error.

Try it yourself

  1. Choose the correct option. The colleague with ___ I shared an office has moved. (whom / that)

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    whom

    After the fronted with, whom refers to the colleague. With that cannot introduce this relative clause.

  2. Choose the correct option. This is the drawer in ___ I keep spare keys. (which / that)

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    which

    In which is the formal pattern referring to the drawer. That is possible with a final in, but not immediately after fronted in.

  3. Choose the correct option. The report I referred ___ is on the website. (to / at)

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    to

    The verb pattern is refer to something. Even when the object relative is omitted, to must remain; at does not fit this meaning.

Use it today

Describe a colleague you worked with and a place you sat in. Write each clause in an everyday version and a more formal version, keeping the same participants and relationship.